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I am the guy who appears in the photos in the postings "Seeking Pre-ops ts for LTR" and "Partner in Crime", and " Seeking Pre-ops ts/tg for ltr". These postings were presumably put up by my ex TG post-op girlfriend whose initials are "AK", or someone associated with her. ("AK" is Asian, 5'6", 120 lbs. long black hair) CL is now in the process of investigating and providing me with the evidence that I need to file a lawsuit against the person or persons who have put up these malicious postings. The basis of the lawsuit is the "unauthorized use of photos or likeness", "defamation of character", and "intentional infliction of emotional distress".
Those of you who will recognize me from these photos will also know my ex "AK". Since "AK" has chosen to "air our dirty laundry" for all of the world to see, I feel that the TRUTH must now be made public for all to see. Here are the facts:
(1) "AK" and I dated off and on over the past three (3) years, with a total time together of maybe a little over half that time. We had frequent break-ups where "AK" would become emotionally unstable, abusive, and would suddenly end the relationship. However, because I had strong emotional feelings for "AK" I opted to take her back after we ran into each other again. It seemed like we were destined to be together. And, I endeavored to make "AK" happy, with the best of intentions. During such times that we were together, I dated her exclusively, and NO ONE ELSE. I did not have sexual relations with anyone else. I haven't had any relations nor dated anyone else romantically since last summer, and at that particular time we ("AK" and I) were apart. (not seeing each other since she broke up with me) If anyone can prove that they have dated me or "been with me" since late last summer, you are encouraged to come forward. However, be prepared to prove it (which nobody can because I know that I haven't been with anyone) or otherwise be prepared to be added to the complaint in the lawsuit. This is NO problem since I have already committed a retainer with the attorneys who will bring this action.
(2) The assertions made by "AK" in the malicious postings referenced above are FALSE. During the time we dated, I treated "AK" with the utmost respect, and was supportive and loving. I also was a real partner in her life and over the course of our courtship I bought her thousands of dollars of gifts, and I have the receipts to prove it. Furthermore, I helped her with her school work/homework, as well as other mundane items, and generally was there for her, supporting her in countless ways far too numerous to enumerate here.
(3) I do not make it a habit of frequenting the places mentioned in the postings on a regular basis. During the last six months, I NEVER frequented any of these places without "AK" at my side. If anyone can prove that I have been to any of the places mentioned without "AK" within the last six months, they are encouraged to come forward. However, they will subject to the same admonition in (1) above.
(4) The only true statement made in these postings is that I do have a older "GG" friend, and I will refer to her as "GG" from here forward. "GG" and I are strictly platonic as she had a hysterectomy years ago and is no longer interested in, nor willing to have sex. Despite this fact, I was initially reluctant to make it clear to "GG" that our relationship was evolving to be such that we were strictly just friends, and I did have trouble "letting go". I understand that in the early days of our relationship, I might have been unfair to "AK", and I take responsibility for my weaknesses and faults. However, "AK" was fully aware of my friendship with "GG" and seemed accepting of it. But eventually I was able to let go, and now this "GG" friend is aware that I date others and has acknowledged that we are "just friends". I do not inform "GG" about the DETAILS of my dating activities (although she does know that I date others) out of consideration for her feelings. And, I have been reluctant to give up this friendship completely (as "AK" has repeatedly insisted) because this person is one of the very few good friends I have ever had in life -- if not the only one. Furthermore, "AK" has known about the friendship with "GG" for nearly the entire time that she has known me. I have continued to advise "AK" whenever I am over at "GG's" house. And yes, I do stay overnight, but we ("GG" and I) have separate bedrooms as we are totally platonic friends, and I sleep with my cats which "GG" takes care of for me. I don't have time to take care of my cats because I work a lot. Yes, I know it SOUNDS suspicious, but everything I have said is TRUE. I have been 100% honest with "AK", and in recent months "AK" seemed accepting of the situation with "GG" as we ("AK and I) continued getting to know each other. Also, in recent months, I have been taking steps, spending less and less time at "GG's" house, as I depend on her emotionally less, and less. But, suddenly now I am the bad guy because I won't completely terminate my friendship with "GG" upon command from "AK".
(5) Recently "AK" had become emotionally unstable, falsely accusing me of cheating on her and trying to deceive her, as well as being overly suspicious without cause, and accused me of not fulfilling my promises to her. She accused me of "trolling" CL, going to the TG clubs, etc., etc. However, I did NONE of those things while we were together (dating). The only time I did any of this was when we were separated, and mainly as a diversion, since I very much missed and was traumatized by not being with "AK".
(6)During the last few months, I felt something was wrong in our relationship, and I suspected that "AK" had another guy. Recently, while visiting "AK" at her place, I discovered irrefutable "hard evidence" that "AK" had cheated (sexually) on me. (a used condom!) That's right folks -- SHE CHEATED ON ME!!! Consequently, I concluded that SHE could no longer be trusted, and being no longer willing to put up with her emotional abuse, I terminated the relationship with HER.
(7) In addition to being emotionally devastated by "AK's" betrayal, I now have to contend with the smearing of my good name, which I WILL NOT tolerate. "AK" knows that my reputation is very important to me, and has therefore attempted to smear my name because of "sour grapes". Everyone who knows me that I am NOT egotistical, nor am I disrespectful, nor am I the kind of person who will put people down. I am a kind and gentle person. If this is regarded as a weakness, then so be it. I am not the kind of person who would try to put another down by suggesting that their physical attributes were "inadequate". And, if "AK" felt that I was "inadequate", then why did she hang around so long, and put up with so much "BS" as she claims I dish out?
(8) What "AK" does not seem to understand is that ALL of what has happened is NORMAL boy/girl stuff. It has nothing to do with anyone being a TG/TS/TV/CD or whatever. People have disagreements, and sometimes misunderstandings cannot be resolved. "AK" thinks that all of this has happened because she is a "TG", but in fact it all has happened because she is unstable, angry, and abusive. I refuse to let anyone abuse me -- if that makes me a bad guy, then so be it.
(9) My heart is broken, but "AK" won't believe it. She thinks that I am some kind of unfeeling monster. The decision to "break it off" with "AK" was extremely difficult and took all of my strength and resolve. I am now in a lot of pain -- it doesn't help that I was forced to be the one to end the relationship. I was very proud to be with "AK" while I was with her. I was always very proud to "show her off" to my friends, and to have her accompany me to social functions involving work colleagues and friends.
(10) If you are of one "AK's" friends, then you need to know the TRUTH about "AK". To you, she appears to be a sweet, normal girl, sane and reasonable. But, a lot of the time she is NOT. And, she plays the "victim" role very well. I should know. And the TRUTH is -- I am the victim. I am the victim of this malicious "character assassination", and slander. I am the victim of continued emotional abuse. But, despite the fact that "AK" and I are no longer together, I continue to wish "AK" the best of luck in finding the "man of her dreams", if I cannot be that man. I am on her side, but she continue to show nothing but ANGER and CONTEMPT for me. I don't understand how she could be doing this when I have ALWAYS have treated her well, with dignity, generosity, kindness, love, and respect. And, even now, I am not trying to stop her from finding her soul mate. I just know that I cannot live up to the impossible standard that she has set for me -- so I have finally given up. However, "AK" has proven that she is not my friend, nor was she ever. Otherwise, she wouldn't be trying to hurt me now by smearing my name.
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Tags: RE: Seeking Pre-ops ts/tg for ltr - m4t (LA)
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